With the Marriage Equality in place now for the LGBT couples, PFLAG’s focus is full steam ahead on the anti-bullying front. So much of what needs to be taught needs to begin at home. It centers around the word “RESPECT”. It used to be that the President of the United State commanded respect from everyone. It didn’t matter if you chose that president or not, you still referred to him as Mr. President. That commonality has seemed to erode significantly. Now it seems that being RUDE is the new common attitude. Whether we are in our cars or at home watching TV, we have a sense of anonymity. We THINK that no one sees us, but is that true? What about members of the family. Children mimic what they see at home. If it is ok for Mom or Dad to behave like that…surely it is ok for me to do it too. So here we are….sending our children out into the world to be rude, nasty, sarcastic people. Just when did that become alright?? Now we have kids bullying other kids because they are different. Perhaps they are handi-capable children…or they are more effeminate or tomboyish… or they may like to wear different clothing than the norm… or wear their hair differently…or perhaps they have blemishes. If you aren’t “normal” you must somehow be wrong. Accordingly, it is then ok to make fun of the person who doesn’t fit the mold. Unfortunately this has been evolving for some time. The time is now, however, to turn things around. Respect needs to become the renewed “NORM”. That MUST start at home. It MUST be preserved in our schools and it MUST be reinforced among our piers. Until that happens, change is not going to happen. Think about it.
There is a buzz in the air and it isn’t because of the bees. More and more people are talking about the right to civil marriages for the LGBT community. It is this buzz that will finally bring about the change that is needed to give LGBT couples the same rights and responsibilities afforded heterosexual couples. It is this buzz that is changing the beliefs of Christians to understand that there is a difference between civil marriage and church ceremonies. It is also this buzz that is breaking down the barriers of the lack of understanding and hate for the LGBT community. President Obama declared DOMA (Defense Of Marriage Act) UNCONSTITUTIONAL. “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” has been repealed. Our very own Denny Smith of Winning Marriage Equality (www.wmenow.org) has been doing an outstanding job in his seminars teaching the differences between Faith and Belief helping to break down those barriers and finally bring an understanding to those who opposed same sex marriages. A former major opponent of same sex marriage… a person who fired up the NOM folks into marching across the states preaching hate and dissention for gay marriage and gays as a whole has had a change of heart. Louis J. Marinelli has discovered that the LGBT community are people too and not just some group to battle and hate. He has completely done a 180 in his belief system BUT he has maintained his faith in God. All across time, Christian beliefs have evolved, but faith in God has not. This is our time to get out of our comfort zones and initiate more discussions on the subject. Affording civil marriage ceremonies to the LGBT community will hurt no one. More discussions can only lead to more understanding which should eliminate the fear of what is not understood. So take flight, my friends. Get a buzz going in the air.